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10 Tips for Sexting and Sending Sexy Selfies

10 Tips for Sexting and Sending Sexy Selfies


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With COVID 19 making everyone stay inside and six feet apart, the idea of nude selfies or even just cute self pics sent to your significant other can start to sound pretty appealing. Even if you aren’t stuck inside, you sometimes just want to remind your partner that they are missed and that you’re thinking of them.

If you’re thinking about sending a cute nude photo or sexting, here’s what you need to know:

Never Send Pictures You’re Not Comfortable Sending

This sounds obvious, but you should never let anyone pressure you into nude photos. While demands for nude women’s selfies happen more often, both men and women may face requests for nude pictures. And you never have to agree if you’re not comfortable.

If the person asking becomes persistent or nasty, cut them off- no questions asked.  You don’t have to be nice about it. If you’re being harassed by someone you just met on social media, you can block and report them as well.

Always Make Sure It’s Consensual

If you’re sending sexy nude selfies to someone else, make sure that this person actually wants to see it. Even if you’re pretty confident that your naked pictures or sexy lingerie pics will be well received, it never hurts to ask.

If this is a new partner or someone you met online- definitely ask. Guys, you may be proud of your penis, but not everyone wants to see it, especially if they barely know you. The same goes for women, of course.

Be Considerate

Try not to send sexting pics to your partner when you know it’s a bad time- such as when they are at work or with family. Explaining risqué photos to an employer, co-workers, or even nosy relatives is definitely going to cut down on the desired effect.

Again, when in doubt, ask!

Think of the Consequences

Unfortunately, people can be pretty nasty, and there are definitely sites that will allow a scorned lover to expose inappropriate pictures. If you’re sending a selfie, nude or scantily clothed picture, you want to trust the person enough not to share it even if things don’t work out.

If you send a full-on nude image at a bad time, you may have some unwanted eyes on the picture, which might do more harm than good for your relationship.

Choose a Platform

There are many ways to send a picture these days- text message, email, Instagram, or even Snapchat. When choosing a platform, consider:

  • Accessibility: You want to choose a platform that is easy to access for you and your partner.
  • Filters: Filters make sexy pics even more fun and can accentuate your body while also saving you the trouble of putting on makeup.
  • Your Own Comfort Level: While there are many ways to communicate these days, you probably have favorites- so why not use them?

Play with Filters

Almost every conceivable method of sexting pics offers some sort of filter. Depending on your chosen method, you may have a few, or many, filters to play with.

Not every filter will be perfect, but it’s not terribly hard to find flattering options for all body and skin types.

You Don’t Have to Show Everything

Sometimes, the hottest nudes, don’t show everything. In fact, you may choose not to show anything but instead give the idea of being naked. For instance, you have your back turned in the photo to help add mystery.

You also have the option of posing in lingerie, a bikini, or even a matching bra and panties rather than completely nude. Remember, your comfort is the priority.

Try a Few Sexy Poses

If you’re going to send a sexy selfie, you’ll definitely want to strike a sexy pose. However, not every pose is going to work for everyone. Instead, you’ll want to try a couple of poses to see which ones best flatter your body and show off your favorite assets.

Keep in mind that taking a sexy selfie can be a bit of a challenge, so don’t be too hard on yourself if the first few photos aren’t perfect.

Use Props

Using a sheet or veil to cover your hips or chest creates an air of mystery while implying that you are naked underneath.

In fact, a sexy photo can consist of nothing but your favorite sex toys– especially toys that you have tried with your partner—seeing the picture will bring back memories of fun times and give your partner something to look forward to for later.

If you’re into BDSM, you can use your favorite flogger or crop for the photo. Again, the sight of their favorite toys, or toys that hold a special meaning to you and your partner, will likely be enough to turn them on.

Add Some Text

A picture may be worth a thousand words, but having a small description or even a few lines of sexy text can add a lot to your image. Your picture can also be an invitation, with the text dictating specifics. Do you want your partner to come over? Or would you want them to join you for a bit of phone sex? Being specific can not only control expectations but help things progress.


  • You never have to send a photo of yourself to another person if you are not comfortable.
  • You can be as clothed or naked as you want while still being sexy.
  • Never send unsolicited sexy pics. If in doubt, ask!
  • Be aware of timing and what your partner may be doing at the time.
  • A sexy photo doesn’t have to be of you- some of your favorite toys will do just fine.
  • Props are a great way to accentuate your photos.
  • Filters are fun to play with and can enhance your picture.
  • Adding some descriptions can make your photo even better.


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