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Mutual Masturbation Sex Tips and Positions

Mutual Masturbation Sex Tips and Positions

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Mutual masturbation doesn’t get nearly enough credit. Depending on what you’ve heard, seen, and done, you may be vaguely familiar with the concept of mutual masturbating with your partner. However, many people may have missed this when exploring sex. And, to others, this may sound confusing. Let’s dive in and find out why this activity is not only super doable but also fun.

What Is Mutual Masturbation?

What Is Mutual Masturbation

While casual masturbation is often a solitary activity, mutual masturbation means that you and another person, or persons, masturbate together. In other words, you are touching yourself and trying to bring yourself to orgasm, but with an audience from your partner or partners. As with private masturbation, you can be flexible about how you’re making yourself come, or you can stop short and let your partner finish their job if they happen to be in the same room.

Why You’ll Want to Try It

There are many reasons to try mutual masturbation- here are just a few:

Build Trust

When couples masturbate together, each partner, or each member of your group if you’re sexually polyamorous, is showing a new side of themselves- one that is typically private. Showing this new, private side of yourselves can help build trust and will allow you to know your partner on a whole other level.

Learn About What Your Partner Likes

Couple mutual masturbation is a great way to learn more about what your partner likes, and doesn’t like, in the bedroom- you simply have to pay attention.

A Safer Form of Sex

All sex carries some risk- be it pregnancy or STD’s. While mutual masturbation isn’t risk-free, it definitely carries less risk compared to other sexual activities simply because there isn’t too much person to person contact. Of course, we still recommend being careful.

It Can Definitely Work as Foreplay

While you and your partner can definitely get off when you’re masturbating, it can also serve as a great form of foreplay. Masturbating side by side with your partner and seeing, but not touching, can be quite a turn-on.

It’s a Little Taboo- and That’s Part of the Fun

Masturbation is traditionally a private activity; pleasuring yourself while someone is watching, or watching someone pleasure themselves, is a little naughty and, for some, definitely a turn on. You can also take turns giving each other a show or get off while you watch your partner getting off.

Positions to Try

When it comes to mutual masturbation, you have plenty of options. In general, any position where you can pleasure yourself is fair game. There are a lot of interesting positions, and you can try as many as you like until you find the one that’s right for you and your partner. Here are a few to get you started:

Face to Face

This couple’s masturbation technique involves you sitting on a couch, a bed, or two pieces of furniture- whatever is comfortable. The goal here is to be far enough away to be able to watch your partner get off while you do the same.  You can try this anywhere, either sitting or standing, as long as you’re facing each other and can see what your partner is doing.

One Top

Have one partner be on top, but keep your hands to yourselves. This optimizes proximity and is a great tease because you’re already touching, but you’re just not touching each other like that, which makes things all the more tempting.  

Modified Missionary

  One of the benefits of missionary is the fact that you are face to face with your partner. This position is like missionary but slightly staggered so that you’re still close to your partner, and you can see their face. This is also slightly different from the face to face position.

The Mutual Hand Job

This entails “borrowing” your partner’s hand and using it to pleasure yourself. Your partner gives up control of their hand and allows you to guide them, and you’re doing the same. If done right, you can mutually masturbate each other to orgasm in no time.

Skype It

“Over Skype” is definitely a position to consider if your partner’s far away, or if you’re unable to see your partner during the pandemic. Couples masturbation is a great thing to try over Skype to keep the spark going between you and your partner even if you’re not physically in one place. You can also do this over the phone, though you won’t get a visual unless you’re on a video call. 

Modified Scissoring

 This is great for female mutual masturbation but can be applied to all types of couples. Simply settle in close to your partner- you’ll want one of you lying down so that you don’t bump heads- and start having fun. The goal is to be within reach of each other, or even be touching each other, while you’re doing your own thing and your partner does theirs. The proximity and the ability to see your partner’s face is a huge turn-on.

Extra Tips

Here are a few additional tips to make the experience more fun.

Invest in Furniture Protection

Hot masturbation can get messy pretty fast, which is why you’ll want to protect your bedding and your furniture with a moisture-resistant throw.

Toys Are Fair Game

Feel free to use whatever toys and extras you’d use when you’re in private, and then some. This is a perfect way to explore new toys because you get to play unhindered, while also in the company of your partner or partners.

Set the Mood

Light some candles, don some lingerie, grab a glass of your favorite coital beverage, and even snacks. Do whatever you would typically do either for yourself or to set the mood with your partner.

Check-In

If you are planning on exploring mutual masturbation, you should definitely check in with your partner. Mutual masturbation, while fun, is not for everyone; some people simply prefer to keep a few things to themselves.

Takeaways

  • Mutual masturbation can be a lot of fun
  • Mutual Masturbation can considerably spice up your sex life
  • You and your partner can learn a lot about each other.
  • Not everyone will enjoy mutual masturbation- talk to your partner first.
  • Don’t be afraid to get creative with both positioning and toys.
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